I was browsing the links at http://demandyourdignity.com/ when I came across this website entitled Empowered Traditionalist. As I read through some of her articles, I find my heart resonate with the messages in there. I think after a while I tend to forget that as a woman I am precious, not because I deserve it but because of God’s grace.
Anyway I was reading this passage on What to do while Single and thought it was a good read with practical advices.
The last bit on independence caught me.
Let go of your independence. I cannot tell you how much you holding onto your own “rights” or independence will harm your marriage.
Perhaps the most significant thing you will sacrifice is the spirit of independence which is destroying women. There is no room for the independent spirit in a woman’s life: we simply cannot love a man, children, or others well if we are entangled in this popular mentality that we are the center of the universe and we should have everything our way and we should be able to accomplish everything we desire and we shouldn’t have to answer to anyone but ourselves.
I am fiercely independent when it comes to upholding my “right” and sometimes it can be as trivial as furniture arrangements. My mom says I have been like this since young – very picky and hard to please. I thought of it as probably a small inconvenience in my interaction with people until I embark on a love relationship with Gabe.
Here expectations and ideals clashes. You either adjust or argue. I for one has the hardest time learning to adjust. Many times, God has to use difficult moments to pry my heart open. Even then, I struggle with Him. Thank God He is still at it else left to myself, it’s an ugly picture. *Shudders to think about it* I guess this is my lesson on submission. I used to think I was pretty good at this submission thing, having realized its importance and even wrote an article about it during my single days. Ah such pride. Nonetheless, I am glad God is moulding me, even if it’s hard on the fleshly side of me.
